JonFo,
I wounder if you have overlooked the crossover vs. filter discussion in the ML manual. Nevertheless, they strongly advise against setting the lo and hi filter settings too close to one another. Below is a graph of sub and main speaker performance with a speaker that gives up at 56Hz.
I am far from being done tweaking, and after seeing this graph, you'll say, "Why don't you simply set the hi pass filter to 40 Hz to match your Sequel IIs performance ?" -- My answer: Because it sounds better to my ear this way.
Here is the graphical representation of what happens when the low and hi pass filters are set to 40 and 70 respectively:
From page 10 in the Depth manual:
VanDaRo,
With all respect, JonFo is probably the best DIY tweaker on this site. As far as I know. He has the most experience and his system shows it. Personally, I would embrace his offer to help as the graph that you show needs a lot of help. Also, what are you using for software? I use this (I think JonFo does as well) http://www.hometheatershack.com/roomeq/. Yes, it is a free download.
Good Luck!